Motherhood and the creative business-Slowly Gathered

I was talking with my sister Ellie about the stresses of motherhood and a creative person's drive to create (as a side-note: we both have 2 boys but she's also pregnant and helps run an orphanage so she wins the tiredness competition there!).

While Ellie loves sewing, I'm more of a painter but we both agreed that energy seems to come as soon as we're creating.

No matter how tired, it's always a happy headspace that's more powerful than coffee and feels more nourishing than kale.

(Although, eating kale does make me feel smug as well as healthy so it does double duty there! But I digress..)

Painting offers a moment to process thoughts and be something other than a mother.

Don't get me wrong, I love being a mom but it can get overwhelming.

Just like I remember when I was single having to do everything myself also felt overwhelming at times, so I don't think this is something that only moms face. I believe it's a universal thing. 

On working together, continents apart

Ellie's going to be helping me in my business, this shop Slowly Gathered, and we were discussing how to be able to work together with all the things going on as well as the time difference (she lives in Swaziland, I'm based in Canada).

As we looked at our planning for products coming up this year we decided to stick to a release calendar but gave ourselves the freedom to work in rhythms rather than being being driven by deadlines. It's a fine line because I do loving ticking things of that to-do list, but that distinction was exactly what we both needed to feel like all the things we've planned for this year would be doable rather than a burden.

 

How to plan in a stress-free way

Letting go of deadlines is not something that comes easy for me. I worked as a product developer in the corporate world for well over a decade and lived or died by the planning. Releasing even 1 hour late was often unacceptable. And working with companies like Google, Samsung and Volkswagen meant timelines were everything.

So to say we'd use a different approach felt weirdly wrong. Nonetheless, my brain tells me it's what needs to be done so I'll be working on adjusting and training myself to say that it's OK to let go a little.

New Year, New Resolutions

I know I'm a little late for new years resolution but after 2020 being what it was... why not?! This quote by Bruce Garrabrandt is my fight song for this year, "Creativity doesn't wait for the perfect moment. It fashions its own perfect moments out of ordinary ones."

I want to try and live life this year with a different kind of planning, a gentler one I suppose. Not waiting for the perfect moment. Not wanting moments to be perfect before sharing them but to show up regardless.

And most of all, accepting that as a mother, wife, friend, sister, daughter and now homeschooler, to enjoy these moments instead of always thinking they're not enough, that I'm not enough.

Consider this

I've used prompts to help me sift through ideas and if you want to join me, you can download them for free here (simply scroll down to the bottom of the link to find the link, click it and a 5-page printable PDF will show up)

 


Lottie Aldarwish